A mother’s testament to herself and against what she is ‘supposed’ to be.
The decision to have a child is the decision to give your entire life up for this new, little human.
You are no longer you; Your body is no longer yours.
Can someone explain the logic to this ideology society lives and feeds off of?
The whole idea that women have to give themselves up, entirely and forever, to have children is ludicrous.
When did having a child mean women had to lose their atonomy?
I remember a time when I thought every conversation I had, picture I posted, and decision I made absolutely, and without a doubt, concerned by two boys.
In my head, that’s what a mother was. That’s what I was told a mother was.
What I wasn’t told was a mother isn’t just a mother.
I realized after losing myself entirely, what the problem was. I’m not just a mother.
I’m a fucking woman.
I am a FUCKING woman.
In that moment, I decided I was no longer conforming to societies standards and expectations of a woman and her role in society as a mother.
We shouldn’t have to change our comfortability and sense of self for another person, regardless of who they are.
Women should be allowed to partake in activities that don’t involve our children.
Our physical appearance does not need to adhere to patriarchal standards on what is appropriate for a mother to and not to wear.
The stigma around motherhood is absolute bullshit. It needs to change.
We are not bad mothers if we do not cook every meal for our kids.
It is possible to be a good mother without volunteering for every school activity.
Mothers can drink, smoke, get high, and still be good mothers.
Moms can engage in sexual escapades, show their nipples, and swear like a sailor while still being a good role model for their children.
I can talk about fucking and orgasms and show my ass on social media and still be a good example for my boys.
I can love myself whole while still providing the best life for my kids.
Mothers are not just mothers. We are people, too. We are ourselves, first and foremost.
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